School life comes with many concerns — from academics and group projects to extracurricular activities and even wider societal issues. When every challenge feels equally urgent, it is easy to feel overwhelmed. Learning how to distinguish what we can control from what we cannot is a powerful way to reduce stress and direct energy where it truly matters.
One useful framework is Stephen Covey’s concept from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: the Circle of Concern, the Circle of Influence, and the Circle of Control. This approach helps learners identify which worries deserve attention, which can be shaped through effort, and which can be acted on directly.
Understanding the Circles
- Circle of Concern: Everything you care about or worry about — exams, friendships, school policies, or even global events.
- Circle of Influence: The areas where you have some ability to make a difference. You may not control the school timetable, but you can manage your study habits and how you use free periods.
- Circle of Control: What you can directly decide and act upon — such as how much sleep you get, whether you revise tonight, or how you treat your peers.
How to Use the Tool
- List Your Concerns: Write down the issues currently on your mind — big or small.
- Sort into Circles: Place each concern into one of the three categories. For example:
- Circle of Concern: “What grade I’ll get on my test.”
- Circle of Influence: “How well I prepared for the test.”
- Circle of Control: “Whether I revise today.”
- Focus Where It Counts: Shift energy towards your Circle of Control and Circle of Influence. Worrying about what lies outside those circles only drains motivation without changing outcomes.
- Review Regularly: Stressors change over time. Revisit your circles weekly or before busy periods (like exams) to keep perspective and stay balanced.
Why It Helps
Using the circles gives you a simple structure for managing stress. Instead of being pulled in many directions, you learn to focus on actions that make a tangible difference. This builds resilience, improves productivity, and helps maintain a healthier balance between school, activities, and personal wellbeing.
The Circles of Concern, Influence, and Control are not a magic fix, but they are a valuable tool for channelling effort in ways that reduce stress. Everyone is different — so experiment with this framework alongside other strategies, like time-blocking or mindfulness, to see what combination works best for you. Over time, these small shifts can help you feel more in control, more productive, and more confident in managing school life.
To put this into practice, try drawing out the three circles yourself and filling them in, or use this printable Circle of Influence and Control chart as a guide.
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